No one says anything when people come in ill. I am now at home and sick. These co-workers are not heroes for coming in to work with their germs, but rather are selfish and inconsiderate. I feel I should say something to our office manager.

No one says anything when people come in ill. I am now at home and sick. These co-workers are not heroes for coming in to work with their germs, but rather are selfish and inconsiderate. I feel I should say something to our office manager.

I am now at home and sick. These co-workers are not heroes for coming in to work with their germs, but rather are selfish and inconsiderate. I feel I should say something to our office manager. What do you suggest?

Dear Recovering: It’s likely your friend doesn’t realize how her exclusions and actions, or in actions, rather, have built up to be so impactful. Either way, intentional or not, your feelings are valid. It’s hurtful when it feels like the balance that friendship requires is uneven, especially when you are in a time of need.

Dear Annie: I value your advice and would like your opinion. I recently had hip replacement surgery. I now have mobility issues and cannot perform many tasks that I could in the past. I cannot walk now without a walker.I had a friend who I thought was a close friend. We live about half a block from each other.

Dear Annie: My company has a back-to-office four days a week mandate this year. While it’s nice to have the in-person camaraderie, co-workers who are conspicuously ill are coming in and spreading their contagion. My company provides a generous two weeks of “occasional absence,” which may be used for sick days, doctors appointments and such.